Sexology

For all ages (18 +), genders, sexual orientations and preferences

Many people have questions and concerns about their sexuality. As a sex therapist, I work with the whole spectrum: from a simple question, up to specific and complex sexual problems. The complaints may relate to the body, the emotions, your self-image, behaviour or relationship/s.

I welcome diversity, people from all nationalities and cultural backgrounds, any belief and religion, skin colour and origin, all body sizes, shapes, and abilities, all expressions of gender/s, relationship/s and sexuality/ies. Everybody is welcome!

Here an overview of sexual issues, desires or problems that are common in my practice.

Sexual Dysfunctions:

  • no or low interest in sex, too much desire, differences in sexual desire
  • erection problems
  • not enough lubrication
  • pain during sex
  • problems with orgasm (e.g. can not orgasm, too quick, no pleasant feeling during orgasm)
  • problems with the body or specific parts of the body (too large, too small, different than desired, with disabilities or impairments)
  • ‘sex addiction’, hypersexuality, difficulties to control sexual behaviour

Sexual, Gender, and Relationship Diversity (of yourself, partner, child, or at work):

  • desires, questions or problems with sexual orientation (lesbian, gay, bi, straight, queer, pan, kink, asexual, or however you feel or identify)
  • relationship variety (the whole spectrum from monogamy to open relationships, multiple partners, poly lifestyle, throuples, complex relationship forms)
  • wishes, questions or problems around gender (transgender, transsexual, non-binary, gender fluid or whatever your way of describing yourself is)
  • intersex
  • conflicts through cultural or religious backgrounds or beliefs

Specific sexual preferences and behaviour (that can be wanted and developed in a pleasurable way, or one has difficulties with):

  • porn
  • cybersex/ internet sex
  • paid sex
  • fetish / sex with objects / paraphilia
  • BDSM, kink
  • transvestism / cross-dressing
  • unacceptable fantasies or desires
  • (un)wanted desire or sex with others, adultery/ cheating
  • sex under influence (drugs, chemsex, psychedelics)

Changes of your sexuality or body through or after:

  • sexual abuse or unwanted/ traumatic experiences
  • pregnancy, childbirth, parenting
  • stress
  • infections, illness, physical disorders (eg. HIV / Aids, cancer, operations)
  • age

Wish for children/ fertility (also for lesbian women/ gay men, trans or non-binary folks, or without a partner)

Learning nieuw skills and visions on sexuality:

  • tantra
  • taoist erotic massage
  • masturbation-techniques
  • sensate focus
  • (wheel of) consent

If your complaint or desire is not listed here, please contact me to see, how you can be helped best.

Often people only start talking about their problems if the situation is already grown out of hand. I recommend to contact a sexologist early on, in order to avoid an accumulation of problems. Even several conversations already can have a great effect. Especially if your situation seems difficult or unsolvable, or you are carrying a secret. But also with general problems like loneliness, relationship/s (whether you do or do not have a partner), uncertainty about your body or any aspects of your sexuality.

My approach is always in a positive and supportive manner. Getting clarity about your current situation and its possible cause is the first step. From there we look what you wish to achieve, and how to grow towards your desired and satisfying sexuality or relationship/s.